Why We Do What We Do {Head Covering}

Let me start with the Bible verses that this belief is based on.  In 1 Corinthians 11 it states that a woman is to cover her head when she prays or prophesies. It also states that a man is to have his head uncovered when praying or prophesying. Now an interesting thing about the book of 1 Corinthians is that Paul (the writer of the book) specifically mentions various times that he is speaking his own opinions.  He also says at another place that a certain command is from God and not from him. It can make this book a little difficult to read and understand.

1 Corinthians 11: 3-16 is about submission to the God-given chain of command. The order is this: God the Father, God the Son, the man or husband, and the woman or wife. The head covering on a Christian woman symbolizes her acceptance of this order. The verse that outlines this order is verse 3: "But I want you to realize  that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God".

God's order is that the husband is the head of the wife, but this does not mean that there is any inequality or inferiority implied in this passage. A husband and wife are united and equal, just as God and Christ are. This is not teaching that women are inferior and must submit in everything to man.  It is teaching God's order and spiritual headship.

Personally, covering my head makes me think about gender, authority, and submission. This can conjure up an image of the servile woman serving a harsh, controlling taskmaster. But that idea of authority certainly does not come from Jesus! He taught us that He was willing to wash his disciples’ dirty feet. He teaches that men are supposed to love their wives as Christ loves the church. In other words, in God's kingdom, the leader is to be the servant. That is an easy kind of authority to submit to!

I believe this passage teaches that a husband and wife are mutually submissive. And that I need to be careful not to use the strong tools of manipulation and control that many women use on men. So my covering is a symbol that I commit to not being bossy, manipulative, or controlling.

But what about legalism? Wearing a head covering can be legalism free.  As a matter of fact, it can be quite freeing. By choosing to obey this Bible passage out of a heart full of love for God and His ways, I free myself from the pressure of Western culture. Where the practice of the head covering becomes abused is when men pressure women to wear it out of a sense of guilt or through manipulation. Saying that only certain patterns, colors, or types of coverings are acceptable does not fit with the spirit of this scripture.

Jesus doesn't impose a list of rules. His law is of love. This passage is better understood when it is understood in this light.

So this begs the question... What about the Christian women who do not view this scripture as literally as I do? Well, this is not (in my opinion) a "thus sayeth the Lord" command (such as stealing, lying, adultery, etc.). I choose to view it in a literal sense while realizing that it really is a heart matter.  No amount of putting something on my head gives me a submissive heart. So I certainly do not think that this is an issue on which you can judge or base your impression of anyone's spiritual experience. On the other hand, as I said, I truly find it to be freeing and a sign that I am secure enough in my identity as a women of God that I am happy to show my submission in a constant, physical way. To quote another woman who decided to cover her head:

‘I wanted to reveal my warmth and my love and be connected to people; instead of them looking at something external…I wanted to be an attractive person for who I am on the inside. I cover in order to be who I truly am.’  

And obviously, a head covering is only one way to accomplish this, but it is a powerful way. As yet another woman says,

"Somehow, this seemingly arbitrary bit of cloth on my head helped me to navigate my own path through the warzones of feminism versus subjugation, egalitarian versus complementarian, and sexual object versus sexless nun, to a place where I feel comfortable. So, while that continues, the scarf stays on."

This is my personal experience as a Christian woman. What are your experiences? Why do you choose to wear or not wear a head covering?

INFJ

A couple of years ago I took the Briggs/Myers personality test. I read the results and laughed quietly to myself about how accurately it described me. (Well, except that the "J" should mean that I'm all organized and very careful about how everything is done! I assume the young lady who helps me doesn't read this blog, but if she did, the tales she could tell...) I sent a text to Keith because I was amused by it. And that is where it stopped.

That is, until a few months ago, when this test resurfaced in an email group that Keith is part of and he took the test. Needless to say, his personality is quite different from mine. He is an ENFP. He was also amazed at how accurately the test described him. But where I laughed quietly to myself and told one person, he shared it with family, friends, and co-workers. He learned lessons from it and shared it with others. He mentioned it in Sunday School and generally used it as an opportunity to learn something about himself and other people.

And I think my favorite part was just our different ways of handling it which fit our personalities exactly.

Anyway, my other favorite part is that now I'm throwing it out there. I'm INFJ according to this test. And, as I like to tell all of my friends (Okay, okay, BOTH of my friends...) I share a personality with Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela and a few other people I won't bother mentioning because well, Mother Teresa...

Oh, and one more favorite thing, the website gives recommendations for which personality type each type should marry. You guessed it, it suggests that INFJ's and ENFP's make good partners. But we didn't need some silly website to tell us that we are perfectly suited for one another...

So tell me, what about you? What personality are you? Is it accurate?

Introducing A New Blog Series

For a little while I have thinking about a blog series. Most of you know we are conservative Christians who attend a Mennonite church. I thought some of you might enjoy reading some posts on why we do what we do. Not that I pretend to have all of the answers, not that I think our way is the only right way, but I still think I'll put it out there. For better or for worse.

Here are a few of the topics I plan to write about in the coming weeks. Please comment if you wonder about something we do and would like to know why we do it that way!

The head covering
Homeschooling
Modesty
Use of modern technology
Movies/television
Orphan care
Simplicity

And anything else I think of as we go along. :)

I will be writing the articles then asking Keith to preview them prior to posting them since I want to be certain that I clearly outline how we, as a family, view each topic.

Anyway, stay tuned, and comment with questions. Now is your chance!

We Are Home

On Saturday we flew home. Everything went smoothly, aside from leaving a suitcase on the airplane, that is. Hopefully we will soon have that returned. The children are thrilled that it contained quite a few school books and so we are a little limited in how much school some of them can do.

The last week we were in Texas the weather was beautiful with highs in the 80's a couple of the days. We arrived home to freezing temperatures and a pending snow storm. We had difficulty getting up the lane so the girls and I walked while Keith and the boys pushed and cajoled the van up the lane. What a welcome home!

But the house is warm and it is so good to be with my sweet children all day in a normal routine! I do love coming home! And, of course, we all missed Keith so much and it is so good to all be together again!

And I have pictures of these beautiful little sweeties to edit. All is right in my world.

"Fun Day"

You know how my children are going to school here in Texas? Well, we decided to plan a fun afternoon for everyone before we leave. We made lunch for everyone (80 pigs in a blanket, oh yes we did!), including the moms and preschoolers who could come and then had relay races and games after lunch.

Everyone ate and laughed and cheered themselves hoarse.

Relay race wearing big boots.

Three-legged relay race.

At the end of the day my youngest brother, Jesse, came and joined the games. Everyone cheered and he did not disappoint with his amazing 12 1/2 foot jump in Jump the River!

I think everyone had a very good day. I mean what is not to love about food and games with family and friends?

Down Home On The Farm {Full Quiver Farms}

My parents have a dairy farm. They bottle their own milk: make cheese, yogurt, cheese balls, cheese spreads, and I don't know what all else. They have a little store on the farm. They also sell to Whole Foods, Central Markets, and at markets. It's a fun little operation. (OK. So fun to watch. Maybe not so "fun" for those doing the work.)

This morning I slipped on some boots and waded out to the store and cheese house for a bit. Considering the torrential downpour which happened over night this was a brave thing to do. Let's just say the puddles are pretty intimidating. But it was cheery and pretty in the store!

Making salsa.

If you ever find yourself near Kemp, Texas stop on by! You won't be sorry!

One Room School

While we are here in Texas our children are attending the little one room school that my sister, Hannah, teaches at. There are normally twelve students ranging from second to seventh grade. Hannah and one other teacher do all of the teaching. Half of the students are my nieces and nephews.

We use a lot of the same curriculum, so it is easy for our children to fit right in when we visit here, and, oh my, do they ever love it! They can't get over the thrill of packing lunches and choosing games at recess! And I also enjoy the little break for the time we are here, so it is a win/win situation for us. (We won't ask the teachers what they think...)

This morning I went out and snapped a few pictures during their devotional period. They were singing songs like This Is The Day and Joyful, Joyful We Adore Thee and reviewing facts from previous devotions like "How old was Noah when the flood began?". As I left the older students were reciting the poem Paul Revere's Ride out on the porch so as not to disturb the younger students class.

These two teachers put so much effort into teaching the children and they are doing such a great job! The children and their parents are very fortunate to have them!